Are there "REAL" Parents anymore?

What are “Real” parents? That question can be argued for generations to come. As we see in our society with shows like, Nanny 911, Super Nanny, and even Wife Swap. Yes our parenting skills are from a broad spectrum, but in the real world, most of what you see does really happen in some households.

How many times have you been out in public and there is a child throwing a tantrums just because he/she does not get his/her way? Most people will say that is it because kids are being kids, but where does it say kids have to act a damn fool because you will not give them what they want , and you ignore it. Let’s get it clear I am not talking about babies that have no control over bodily fluids and are hungry and the parent ignores but I will get to that in due time. I am talking about 3 and 4 years who at that age should know that when mommy and daddy say no, no means NO! To make it even more clear those children who are older like ages 5 through 7 who do the same things.

We have all seen it, in Wal-mart, the mall, drug stores, and restaurants. You name you have seen it. I believe strongly that child will test you to the limits of your own sanity, but in the same manner children should not be able to run over their parents. Why is it that a child can tell an adult “NO” and there is not a consequence? Why can your children can pull away from you and you chase after them like a little lost puppy in the woods. And my personal favorite. you tell your child to stop doing something, and of course like any other child if not discipline and does not understand rules they keep right on, and still you ignore.

Come on people this is insane! People get mad when someone else tries to correct their children, but insist that their children did nothing wrong. What happen to those days where you use to be about to say something and the parents act on it, better yet it was taking care before mom and dad got to you and then you still were in trouble when you got home. Have parents become so passive about parenting. Or is that parents are scared of being strict for fear of what some call “child abuse”. (Which has a broad definition) Now I’m not talking about beating your children or making them feel less that human, but laying down rules and consequences for their actions.

Children become adults and as adults we have to follow rules. As parents if you do not instill those rules as a child then as adult what do they have to follow. I understand some people grew up in very strict households and they took a vow that they would never be as strict as mom and dad. Well it may have work but in the process little Billy is kicking you and screaming public and little Suzie is walking off and you have no idea where she is. Does being strict and enforcing rules sound so bad now?

Not only is acting out in public a huge issue but these are the same children who are acting out in school and being disruptive. I worked in childcare and trust me it starts early and continues if not fixed. Even in our son classroom, I can see how some of the children get their way and the parents think that it’s cute or blow it off or whatever expression you can come up with. It is a crying shame that an educator who has to spend up to 3 to 4 years in college and graduate…ends up with having to rear some parents’ child. It is not a teachers job to be a disciplinary they are their to educate your children, not be a babysitter.

Simply put parents need to be aware of their children and their actions and do something about it. No parent should be that self-absorb that they can not see that their child is a problem child and needs correction. Kids will be kids but kids are not adults and are far from it. The adults who are parents need to step up and be parents. If it is that hard, and can’t control the ones you have, re-evaluate before having more.